When Do You Ask Someone To Be Your Valentine? (Explained)

Valentine’s day presents an excellent opportunity to reach out to that person you have been crushing on for a while.

Whether you’re a tween sending a card in school, a teen crushing on someone, or an adult in a committed relationship, there are several ways to ask someone to be your Valentine.

Read on to find out how you can share your feelings and approach your crush on Valentine’s day.

When Do You Ask Someone To Be Your Valentine?

When to ask someone to be your Valentine will depend on your age and your relationship with the person you want to ask. 

Tweens and teens often want to ask someone they have a crush on to be their Valentine in school. The best time to ask someone is a week before Valentine’s Day or early February. This way, you can ask them before anyone else does.

❤️ Suggested Reading: How To Get A Girlfriend In Middle School

If you’re older, you could use Valentine’s day as an excuse to ask someone you like out on a date. You could mention that Valentine’s day is coming up, and you’d like to ask them out on a date. Asking them at least a week before Valentine’s day will give them time to get excited and to prepare if you’re taking them out on a date on Valentine’s day itself. 

If you’re already in a relationship, then asking someone to ‘be your Valentine’ is a romantic gesture, signaling that you still love them very much and would like to spoil them on Valentine’s day. In this case, you can spoil them with a romantic card or gift, wishing them a Happy Valentine’s Day, and tell them that you’d like to celebrate by taking them out for a date. 

You ask someone to be your Valentine if you have developed feelings and are interested in getting to know them better. It’s like asking them out on a date. It would be best if you made the request a few days before the actual day. 

Many romantic relationships develop from already existing friendships. So if you are friends with the person you are interested in, it becomes easier to ask them to be your Valentine. Be open-minded and ready for the fact that they might say no, which is okay; just don’t let it be the reason you stop being friends.

If you are interested in a person but haven’t had the chance to interact, asking them to be your Valentine might be a bit challenging. It is common to have butterflies or a bit of anxiety before letting someone know how you feel.

Private messages are a great way to get your message across if you are shy. Send your message a few days before Valentine’s day to give them time to respond and prepare if you’re taking them out on a date.

If you decide to ask someone to be your Valentine, there are many ways to make it special.

❤️ Suggested reading: Valentine’s Gifts For Teens

How To Ask Someone To Be Your Valentine?

How you ask someone to be your Valentine will depend on your age and the relationship you have with the person you want to ask.

Asking Your Crush

Asking someone you like but don’t know well can be intimidating. In this case, a card or cool text message is probably your best bet. 

You can sneak a card into their locker or even ask a friend to give it to them. 

Obviously, if you have the confidence to go up to them and ask them directly, that’s great, but most people might not be able to do that. 

If you’re still in school, there may be some fun school activities around Valentine’s day that could help you in asking someone to be your Valentine. It may even be an opportunity to send anonymous love notes to your crush. 

❤️ You might be interested in reading about these psychological facts about crushes.

Asking Someone With A Mutual Crush

Knowing that the person you like has feelings for you as well makes asking them out much easier. You’re sure to get a positive response, so you can be more confident with your approach. Giving them a card, cute message, Valentine’s gift, or even asking them directly are all wonderful ways to ask them. 

Asking Someone In A Relationship

If you’re already in a relationship, then asking your partner to be your Valentine is more a romantic gesture than a real question. Gift them something they love, plan a romantic evening, or even a fun weekend away. Valentin’s day is just an excuse to celebrate your relationship.

If you’re in a long-distance relationship, then you should definitely spoil them even more, to let them know that you’re thinking of them and would love to spend more time with them. Be sure to send them a gift a week before and then call them on Valentine’s Day. 

Below are some unique ways to ask someone to be your Valentine:

1. Tap into your talents

Everyone is gifted with specific talents and skills if you are great at art and can create unique art pieces. Use your abilities and put your message across to them. You might be able to play the guitar or sing well; let these skills do the asking for you.

2. Talking to the person

If you feel brave enough, you can use the traditional method to approach someone in person and talk to them. Be friendly and respectful in how you approach them, be keen and observe their body language and facial expression. You will be able to sense if they are interested in how they act after you ask them.

If they are not interested, respect their decision and don’t be too pushy.

3. Get a card

If you feel shy and can’t approach the individual in person, let a card carry and deliver your request. With many types of cards available, choose one that you feel suits them. Not sure how they might react; try sending an anonymous card before sending another one with your name on it or approaching them directly.

4. Use your cell phone

Using your phone might seem too obvious, but it is actually a fantastic idea. Everyone communicates via messaging apps. So call that person up and ask them if they would like to be your Valentine or send them a private message.

Here are some funny texts you could send:

• I send you this Valentine’s flirtext in lieu of candy hearts and chocolate. Will you be my Valentine?
• It’s Valentine’s Day, and apparently, we’re both single. Do you know where I’m going with this?
• Fill in the blank: Valentine’s Day is a _______ holiday. I wish I could spend it with __________.
• Happy Valentine’s Day. Wanna be on my speed dial?
• Happy Valentine’s Day. Just wanted to let you know that if you wanna chat or hang out, I’m down for that.

❤️Here are some hilariously cheesy & super cute notes to send to your boyfriend.

5. Send a photo

Go to the beach and write your question, “Will you be my Valentine?” in the sand. Then take a photo of it and send it to your crush. 

You can also use candy to spell out the words or think of other creative ways to take a photo of your question.

6. Use chocolate or candy

Go all out and buy a yummy box of chocolate or different types of candy and write a sweet short handwritten note or handmade card to accompany them.

7. Buy flowers

Get the person a bouquet of nicely selected beautiful flowers. Make sure to include a card with your Valentine’s day request. 

8. Send a gift

From your knowledge and understanding, shop for a gift item for the person. Considering the variety of things you can purchase, be more intentional and buy affectionate gift items that also portray your feelings towards the individual.

9. Treasure hunt

This idea will work well if you are already friends or spend time in the same social circles. Write up clue cards with hints that eventually lead to the last one with your Valentine’s day request on it. Keep it short and simple no need to prolong the hunt for too long.

❤️ Suggested reading: How To Start A Conversation With A Guy (Advice & Examples)

Cute Ways To Ask Someone To Be Your Valentine

1. Bake something

Nothing is sweeter and cuter than receiving home-baked goodies. You can use simple online recipes if you don’t know how to bake. Make sure to complete the process; for a cake or cupcakes, you can decorate them with your message request on top.

2. Set up a romantic date

It goes without saying that this date should take place on Valentine’s day. Plan a candlelit dinner and, for an even cuter touch, add rose petals to make the dinner scene more romantic.

Some people are not into romantic dinner dates; if you prefer something low-key, you can go ice skating together or enjoy a sunset picnic on the beach.

❤️Suggested reading: Picnic Date Ideas (Romantic Ideas for Couples)

Whatever you decide to do, let them know what you’ve planned and ask them if they would like to go on this date with you.

3. Make a DIY card

The recipient will appreciate the effort and time it takes to make a handmade card. Creative cards are always a winner but remember, it’s the thought that counts. A box of candy will go well with your card.

Watch this video to make cute heart cut-out Valentine’s Day card:

4. Be creative 

Using candy or chocolate, you can write “Will you be my Valentine?” someplace you know the person will most likely see it. Candy hearts would also be a great addition. You can also use a banner carrying the same message or write it somewhere strategic with a removable marker.

5. Factor in their likes

The person you are interested in might be a friend already, which is good since it means you know what they like, what they enjoy doing, and their hobbies. With this information, plan how to ask them to be your Valentine by doing something that you know they will enjoy.

6. Make A Mini Matchbox Card

There are several super cute mini matchbox card ideas on Pinterest that you can make and pass to your crush.

Here is a cute example:

7. Request a shout-out on the radio or tv

You can try to find out what their favorite show is either on tv or radio and have them relay the message on your behalf. If possible, you can include a short message or song to go along with the request.

Watch this video for some cute ideas:

How To Ask Someone To Be Your Valentine Over Text

• Hey, you’re pretty cute, and I have a crush on you. Do you want to be my Valentine?
• Want to be my Valentine and go on a date?
• Hey, I know this is random, but would you like to be my Valentine? We should go on a Valentine’s day date!
• Be my Valentine this year. Let’s go on a date.
• Is it weird if I ask you directly for a date on Valentine’s Day?
• What are your plans for Valentine’s Day?
• Would you like to go on a date with me this Valentine’s Day?
• Hey, will you be my Valentine? Let’s go on a date.
• So, Valentine’s day first date?
• Hey, gorgeous. Will you be my Valentine?
• Life would be even more glorious if you’d be my Valentine. Can we go on a date on the 14th?
• You know I am crushing. Be my Valentine. Let’s go on a date on Valentine’s day.
• Morning, next Thursday let’s go on a date, be my Valentine.
• Would you be down to be my Valentine? I’d like to take you out.
• Guess what day it is today? Want to go on a date with me?
• Hey, would you be my Valentine? I would love to go on a date with you.
• Hey boo, will you be my Valentine?
• Do you have a date for Valentine’s?
• Hey, I was wondering if you’d like to be my Valentine? And maybe we can go on a date or something?
• I’ve been thinking of you all day and realize that Valentine’s day is coming up. Wanna go watch (insert name of a movie) with me?
• Be my Valentine. We can go on a date and stuff.
• Will you be my Valentine? Yes or no?

Related Valentine’s Day Questions

What does asking someone to be your Valentine mean?

When you ask someone to be your Valentine, it means you have feelings for them and would like to get to know them better. It means that you’d like to go on a date with them and are possibly interested in starting a relationship of a romantic nature with them. 

It doesn’t have to be very serious, to begin with. You can just enjoy spending time together on Valentine’s Day and see how things go. If the date goes well, you might start dating officially or take a step toward exclusivity at some point. 

You should be aware that if the person you ask is not interested in you, you should not pressure them into accepting your request.

For younger tweens, sending a card or message asking someone to ‘Be My Valentine’ can be seen as a way to let someone know that you like them, and not necessarily be asking them out on a date specifically. Tweens normally go on group dates, so they can use Valentine’s Day to let their crush know that they think they’re awesome and make them feel special.

❤️ Here are some Cute Names To Call Your Crush (for Girls & Guys)

Is asking someone to be your Valentine asking them out?

Asking someone to be your Valentine means that you have romantic feelings for them and would like to get to know them better. Going on a date would most likely be the next step. However, it will depend on your age.

Tweens might just send a card to someone they like at school and not necessarily be able to date yet. Teenagers might use Valentine’s day as an excuse to ask someone they like out on a date.

Valentine’s day presents an excellent opportunity to reach out to someone for whom you have feelings and are hoping to start a relationship. 

Do you ask your girlfriend to be your Valentine?

Yes. You can ask your girlfriend to be your Valentine. Not only is it a nice sentimental gesture, but also romantic as well. It proves that you still love her and have romantic feelings for her. To make it even better, you can offer her a cute gift, delicious chocolates, or go on a date.